Thursday, April 22, 2010
LOVE VS INFATUATION
love vs infatuation
Infatuation is instant desire, one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you, to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You want them near. But near or far, you know they are yours and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him/her." Love says, "Be patient. He/she is yours. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are in one another's company you are hoping it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers. Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes you check. Love means trust. You are calm, secure, and unthreatened. They feel your trust and it makes them even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you'll regret later, but love never will. Love lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before